
The first scriptural analogy of the Church that we will address is the comparison of the Church to a bride, and Christ to a bridegroom:
As I mentioned in the introductory posting, each of the analogies applied to the church in Scripture speaks at two levels: the conceptual unity of the universal church and the practical outworking of this unity in the local church, the latter flowing from the former. This first analogy of a bride lays the foundation for Christian unity (both in principle and practice): realizing our unity with God. Human sin nature desires nothing but rebellion. The grace of God alone unifies the sinner with the Savior and enables us to practice unity with others. If we ever hope to be a truly Prime Church, it is essential that we grasp (or at the very least appreciate more fully than we do currently) this bride/bridegroom imagery.
Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her to sanctify her by cleansing her with the washing of the water by the word, so that he may present the church to himself as glorious– not having a stain or wrinkle, or any such blemish, but holy and blameless... For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and will be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. This mystery is great– but I am actually speaking with reference to Christ and the church (Ephesians 5:25-27,31-32).
But the analogy of marriage no longer carries the weight today that it did in the original context. Today society perverts marriage into something purely romantic, and therefore fleeting and temporary. Don't misunderstand, romance plays a vital role in marriage, but a marriage founded solely on emotional feeling destines itself to crumble. If we interpret the analogy as romantic, then we misinterpret the message of the text. When Paul uses this imagery in Ephesians, he does so in the context of mutual, joyful submission and obedience to one another (see the introduction to this section in 5:15-21). The commitment holds the relationship together. We have no hope of grasping the importance of this marriage imagery as long as we continue to immerse ourselves in the mindset of a culture that has a warped view of the role God intended marriage to play. So, in order to fully understand this analogy, we must separate ourselves from the culture around us and explore the original context of the message: the marriage tradition of the first-century Jews.
Much of what is discussed here was first raised to my attention in a sermon by Brian Fisher, of Grace Bible Church in College Station, TX, entitled "The Church: Bride of Jesus Christ." I highly recommend you take some time to listen to this sermon. It traces the bride/bridegroom analogy beyond these few verses in Ephesians, identifying passages throughout the entire Bible that enlighten us to the commitment of God for His people and for His bride.
The Shiddukhim (or the Match) begins the marriage process. This was a responsibility belonging to the father of the groom, and it portrays God the Father as the initiator of the union process, not us. As much control as we like to think we have over our lives, especially when it comes to choosing who we will marry, we must realize that in our relationship with God He initiates and we respond. God chose us as a match for Himself while we still openly rebelled against Him. Despite our rebellion, God reaches out to humanity with grace and asks us to respond in faith. Grace lays the foundation for any hope of unity.
You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you to go and bear fruit, fruit that remains, so that whatever you ask the Father in my name he will give you (John 15:16).
The Mohar (or the Bride Price) follows the Match. The Father of the groom gave the Mohar to the family of the bride as a statement of the bride’s worth. How much worth do you think you have in the eyes of God? God pays the ultimate price for unity with His bride, giving His one and only Son on the cross. God not only chose us while we rebelled against Him, but He loved us to the point of crucifying His Son to establish a relationship with us. As a pastor of mine would say "Grace is free, but it is not cheap. It is exceedingly expensive." God acts to redeem despite the cost of grace. If we can come to a greater appreciation of this sacrifice on our behalf, we will naturally respond through sacrificing our own lives for others, setting aside our own desires for the betterment of the community, no matter the cost.
Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price. Therefore glorify God with your body (1 Corinthians 6:19-20).
You know that from your empty way of life inherited from your ancestors you were ransomed– not by perishable things like silver or gold, but by precious blood like that of an unblemished and spotless lamb, namely Christ (1 Peter 1:18-19).
Watch out for yourselves and for all the flock of which the Holy Spirit has made you overseers, to shepherd the church of God that he obtained with the blood of his own Son (Acts 20:28).
The Ketubah (or the Marriage Contract) would be agreed upon by the families once the bride price was paid. They would then seal the agreement with a drink of wine. Jesus broke bread, blessed the cup and drank it at the last supper. Just as we see this marriage imagery providing a deep and rich metaphor for the believer’s relationship with God, the Jewish Passover tradition contains a wealth of symbolism that Christ used to teach His disciples in their final moments together (for more on Passover tradition, visit www.chosenpeople.org, or listen to the sermon "The Messiah and the Passover," given by Mitch Glaser).
And after taking the cup and giving thanks, he gave it to them, saying, "Drink from it, all of you, for this is my blood, the blood of the covenant, that is poured out for many for the forgiveness of sins. I tell you, from now on I will not drink of this fruit of the vine until that day when I drink it new with you in my Father's kingdom" (Matthew 26:27-29).
The bread (or afikomen) taken during the meal was actually in three separate pieces. One piece represented the people, one piece God, and the piece taken between them represented the priest. The tradition calls for the breaking of this middle piece. When Jesus breaks the bread, He asserts His role as our intermediary priest, between us and God, His body broken on our behalf. In a similar fashion, the wine was actually five different representative cups taken throughout the Passover. The third cup of wine, known as the cup of redemption, would be presented after the meal. It served as a reminder of
The Mattan (or the Love Gifts) were voluntary gifts the couple gave to each other beyond the legal aspects of the bride price and the marriage contract. The love gifts given from the groom to the bride specifically reflect the love that God voluntarily gives to us. Beyond the gift of grace, as if it weren’t enough, God continues to bestow blessing on us. This blessing may not always come in the form of material wealth or worldly affluence, as we so often hear in the popular prosperity gospel preaching of today, but it most certainly comes. The following scripture quotation is long, but worth contemplating in its entirety. In fact I would recommend reading the remainder of Ezekiel 16 that follows this quotation to see how we take gifts given to us by God and pervert them to further our own selfish desires.. much like we have done with the gift of marriage.
"Then I passed by you and watched you, noticing that you had reached the age for love. I spread my cloak over you and covered your nakedness. I swore a solemn oath to you and entered into a marriage covenant with you," declares the sovereign LORD, "and you became mine. Then I bathed you in water, washed the blood off you, and anointed you with fragrant oil. I dressed you in embroidered clothing and put fine leather sandals on your feet. I wrapped you with fine linen and covered you with silk. I adorned you with jewelry. I put bracelets on your hands and a necklace around your neck. I put a ring in your nose, earrings on your ears, and a beautiful crown on your head. You were adorned with gold and silver, while your clothing was of fine linen, silk, and embroidery. You ate the finest flour, honey, and olive oil. You became extremely beautiful and attained the position of royalty. Your fame spread among the nations because of your beauty; your beauty was perfect because of the splendor which I bestowed on you," declares the sovereign LORD (Ezekiel 16:8-14).
The Shiluhim (or the Dowry), in addition to the love gifts, were gifts given by the father of the bride to His daughter. Any earthly analogy we use in trying to understand the intricacies of God 's operation, especially in developing relationships with humanity, falls apart at some point. In the analogy, God must fill the role of both the Father of the bride as well as the groom. Think of it this way: He continues to bestow blessing on us from every possible angle. If only we could concern ourselves with the work of blessing others spiritually from every side, then we would no longer need to preach unity.
I can pray this because his divine power has bestowed on us everything necessary for life and godliness through the rich knowledge of the one who called us by his own glory and excellence. Through these things he has bestowed on us his precious and most magnificent promises, so that by means of what was promised you may become partakers of the divine nature, after escaping the worldly corruption that is produced by evil desire (2 Peter 1:3-4).
The Kiddushin (or the Betrothal) is the period that begins after the Ketubah. During this time the couple is legally married but there exists a period of separation between them. The bride and groom are set apart with undistracted devotion to one another, living in constant anticipation of their union. We need to live with this anticipation for the return of Christ. We need to look forward to the Nissuin (or the Marriage) and to the future celebration we will experience upon the return of the bridegroom. The quarrels between us today come to nothing in light of our future hope and glory.
There are many dwelling places in my Father's house. Otherwise, I would have told you, because I am going away to make ready a place for you. And if I go and make ready a place for you, I will come again and take you to be with me, so that where I am you may be too (John 14:2-3).
You people of this generation, listen to what the LORD says. "Have I been like a wilderness to you, Israel? Have I been like a dark and dangerous land to you? Why then do you say, 'We are free to wander. We will not come to you any more?' Does a young woman forget to put on her jewels? Does a bride forget to put on her bridal attire? But my people have forgotten me for more days than can even be counted (Jeremiah 2:31-32).
You yourselves can testify that I said, 'I am not the Christ,' but rather, 'I have been sent before him.' The one who has the bride is the bridegroom. The friend of the bridegroom, who stands by and listens for him, rejoices greatly when he hears the bridegroom's voice. This then is my joy, and it is complete (John 3:28-29).
Let us rejoice and exult and give him glory, because the wedding celebration of the Lamb has come, and his bride has made herself ready (Revelation 19:7).
There is sooooooo much more that could be said for the bride/bridegroom analogy. It presents such a rich metaphor for God's desire and love for His church. What I hope I have presented here is simply the fact that before we can ever experience unity with each other, we must first realize our complete unity with Christ, both now and forever. Unity with God enables us to practice unity with others. Grace revitalizes our sinful hearts and enables us to live life with hope, expectantly awaiting the return of Christ.




